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Should Mrs. Spitzer salvage marriage or move on?


The news today was awash with speculation as to if, or when, New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer, a Democrat, will resign amidst an FBI probe over cash transfers and hooker dalliances. But no one is addressing the real elephant in the room — the Mrs.


Should Silda Wall Spitzer consent to counseling to save the marriage, or should she redistribute the Mr.'s clothing across the lawn?


--Audrey Hudson, Homeland Security reporter, The Washington Times

Comments (11)

She should leave. The man is obviously a jerk. Maybe even a Jeckel/Hyde thing going on. If he's been seeing hookers for 6 years and spending A LOT of money on it, he's clearly twisted. If she stays, she's an idiot. But, maybe she is...

Very many in this position would first try to access what it would cost them personally.

Oh, I bet we find out that Spitzer's been using the taxpayer's money, but that'll be somewhere down the road. He's clearly a complete slimebag. I guess his wife needs to figure out if she can forgive him, and if he's capable of earning her forgiveness. Meanwhile the pressure for Spitzer to resign needs to be kept up relentlessly.

I think that guy should resign. He continues being a shame to his entire family and a shame to the people of New York State.

NO, HE SHOULD BE HILLLARYS VP RUNNING MATE. HE WILL FIT IN TO THE FAMILY.

Poor wife!Hope she hangs him out on the clothes line.

Will Elliot Spitzer’s assignations with prostitutes hurt his political career? Of course not. If anything, it will advance his career.
Look at former President Bill Clinton. His 18-month affair with 21-year-old intern Monica Lewinski, in the White House no less, was far more scandalous, yet here he is, ten years later, running for de facto Co-President with his loving wife, and likely to win..

Some people will say you have separate the man's private life from his public life. But then again, Spitzer is not the president.

Elliot Spitzer is a brilliant man and effective Governor. What he does in his spare time is nobody's business except his. Perhaps the marriage has worn thin, as marriages usually do. The Spitzer's will have to take a hard look at whether or not continuing their marriage is the best option. Let's not beat a man down simply because he's had an indiscretion or two! Instead, focus on his many accomplishments.

I may be wrong, but my guess from the little I have heard and read is that Silda may have already known about Eliot Spitzer's "indiscretions," and she may have tolerated them and acclimated herself to a marriage where this was "accepted." I do not know what their sex life was like; only she and Eliot do. In some situations (where, say a wife is sick or unable to 'satisfy' her husband and vice versa and/or even herself), sex outside the marriage might be, in my opinion, acceptable - not ideal though. As to the how this should be done, though, is problematic (i.e., should an escort service be used or a girlfriend be obtained?). Craigslist personals in my city has many, many ads from married men (usually older - in their 50s or so) asking for a sexual companion - that they do not want to leave the marriage, but just want a sexual relationship; and here is a rhetorical question: Are these needs genuine or are all of these men just fishing for a little something extra to spice things up - that is, do they have a good sex life at home and want more? I tend to think, that some of the pleas are genuine, and perhaps some of the wives even agree to these liaisons, but perhaps not all.

On the other hand, if the wife is "traded in" for the "newer model," so to speak and is neglected in the area of a sexual relationship and actually is willing and can perform, but is simply rejected, then that woman should perhaps distribute the husband's clothes across the lawn, but of course that would be up to the wife (in some situations, a marriage of convenience is tolerated for financial reasons). Anyway those are just my opinions.

As far as Mrs. Spitzer is concerned, because, I cannot say what she should or should not do; that would be up to her - she may indeed love her husband. I can think of aquaintances who have had husbands who cheated on them and they just "did not want to know," but probably did and lived fairly happily in this "fantasy."

You can't separate the private from the public life of any man. They are one in the same. Either you are ethical or not, either you respect your marriage or you don't. Gray is a color for fabric not a rubric to live by. Goodbye Citizen Spitzer, I pray you seek forgiveness from God, not justice; mercy not vindication.

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